Constant self doubt and anxiety about your future
Tired of never feeling good enough
Wondering why your performance falls apart the second you’re trying to impress someone
Frustrated with how often you find yourself in your head instead of in the moment
Only able to focus on your faults instead of your strengths
Feeling defeated and worthless as a result of an injury
Confused about what to do next in your career… Asking yourself:
“Is it time to move on from ballet? "
"If I wasn’t dancing what the heck
would I do?”
A former professional dancer who’s been there, and a Mindset Coach who is here to be your guide to radiant confidence through some of the toughest challenges a dancer can face.
I know what it feels like to have so little confidence that I doubted my ability to do the most basic steps (despite the fact that I was dancing in the top level of a world renown school). I know what it feels like to go through a soul-crushing injury and then wonder what the heck is next in life.
That’s why I created this service for dancers. To provide the type of support that I wish I had. To commit myself to seeing dancers not for their problems (we do that enough for ourselves), but rather, for their potential, and guide them as they step into it.
As a coach who understands, I partner with dancers individually to do so much more than just cope with their circumstances. I walk my clients through powerful strategies for identifying and busting limiting beliefs, setting and achieving powerful, achievable goals, grounding them in a sense of self that isn’t dependent on external validation, understanding how to tap into different mental states that give you the ability to deliver strong performances consistently, and so much more.
I not only help dancers resolve the emotions and mentalities that hold them back from creating success on their own terms, I empower every client with strategies that they can implement over the long term to master their own mindset and continue to fulfill their potential moving forward.
“Before I started working with Kirsten, I felt like I was constantly at war with myself, and I was seriously struggling with how to achieve balance in my life. I feared that no matter how hard I worked and how many things I did “right,” it still might never be enough, which caused me to question every choice that I made and categorize every waking moment as either helping or hindering my progress. It quickly became clear that Kirsten was invested in long-term growth opportunities rather than quick fixes, and was always eager to explore challenging topics in-depth even if the solution was not immediately apparent. I am now aware of the multitude of resources at my disposal, and I feel empowered to accept where I am currently with the knowledge that I always have the ability to create positive changes. Working with Kirsten has helped me to rediscover my joy and appreciate my unique abilities as a dancer with confidence and love for myself throughout the process.”
- Grace Weidemann, Dancer
"After dealing with a knee injury for three months that I felt like I was never going to get through, I spoke with Kirsten for just one hour, and the change I experienced after our discussion was incredible. I had been battling my own mind and body for such a long time and was frustrated and stressed, yet in a few weeks after Kirsten helped me shift my mindset, I was feeling great and experiencing little to no knee pain- something I had only dreamed of for months! I did not realize how powerful your mindset can be in terms of your physical health. Thanks to Kirsten, I was able to get past this injury and am now preparing to go overseas for a dream summer intensive program that I wouldn’t imagine ever happening a few months ago."
- Harper Banks, Trainee with Oklahoma City Ballet
"My time working with Kirsten would be what I would describe as one of the best decisions I have made for my future. Kirsten listened, was thought-provoking and truly cared about helping me obtain what I was searching for. I came disoriented as to where I stood with dance in my life, and have emerged with direction along with an array of concrete tools. Thank you Kirsten, for providing a much needed service for an art form that is just as mentally demanding as it is physically."
- Nadia Smith, Pre-Professional Dancer turned Art Student
"As dancers, our greatest challenges are often not physical, but mental. We are far too quick to judge ourselves based off of our appearance in the mirror, how a performance 'felt', and what our teacher/artistic director thinks of us. If we're honest, we enter the studio with a self-limiting and debilitating mindset that hinders us from growing. Kirsten not only recognizes this, but she's been through it and has come out the other side with insight and wisdom far beyond her years. Thankfully, she has the way out! Through Kirsten's coaching, I've come to recognize the thought patterns that are not serving my dancing and have come to adopt new ones based on her guidance and expertise. Kirsten will help you set new goals and give you a clear & informed perspective that we simply can't get on our own. I am incredibly grateful for her!"
- Jordan Tilton, Professional Dancer with Diablo Ballet (formerly with San Francisco Ballet), Creator of the Ballet to Business Podcast
"Kirsten has been a tremendous support in my journey by providing me with the knowledge that is key to a dancer's success in the industry. In only three sessions, she has helped me discover parts of myself that I was unaware of and has led me to change my perspective on issues that arise from the instability and pressure that can be placed on a dancer as he or she transitions from student to professional. With her help, I feel free to discover my art and express my love for it."
- Joffrey Ballet Trainee and Former Dancer with the Houston Ballet Academy
"It is rare that you find someone as special as Kirsten. To sum up her expertise in a few sentences is nearly impossible.
Kirsten has a unique gift to listen and absorb all sorts of information and then not only give you a different perspective, but this realization that we are all so much more powerful than we give ourselves credit for. I worked with Kirsten very briefly but her impact still resonates with me today. I imagine anyone with Kirsten by their side would have the confidence to achieve just about anything they set out to do. If you are on the fence about working with her, this is your sign, give her a try I promise you will be happily surprised."
- Chelsea P., Adult Recreational Dancer
“Kirsten helped me identify my biggest challenge in life: devoting myself to something I value highly, but without the anxiety. Within just two calls, she helped me adopt a new mindset that instantly lifted the weight off my shoulders. Now I am able to focus on taking the right course of action to move forward with my career without the worrying and obsessing over what could happen to hinder me. This has allowed me to see new possibilities in stressful situations. She clearly cares about my well-being and her coaching is focused, lucid, and efficient. I highly recommend her to anyone who needs some perspective and guidance during their career struggle!”
- Jackie Z., Recreational Dancer, Researcher & Economist
Learn to motivate yourself with passion, not fear or self-hatred.
No more relying on fear or obligation to work towards your dreams. Together we will break the cycle of “I’m trying to ____” or “I know I should ____” and replace it with “I’m doing ____ because I want to!”.
Bust the toxic relationship between who you are and what you do.
This the dancer's downfall! So many dancers only see themselves as dancers first and foremost. And what do dancers do? They dance. So what happens when you’re injured and can’t dance or you are having a day when you can’t seem to dance very well? You either feel like a failure or, at best, just not like yourself. When you learn to see yourself and your value as you’re sitting on the coach, you can have an off day in the studio without going into an emotional crisis.
Build authentic confidence and learn how to tap into it when you need it most.
Learn how to instantly access different states of mind in order to better apply yourself to your goals or adapt to any challenges you might face day to day.
Build trust with yourself and your body as you either seek to overcome an injury or performance anxiety.
Learn and apply a framework for success, achieving attainable outcomes, converting overwhelm and anxiety into action, and much more, so that you can not only achieve more than you thought was possible through our work together, but use what you learned to continue create success for yourself long after our work together has been completed.
1. Deep, personalized coaching. This will include:
The use of Neurolinguistic Programming therapeutic techniques to release the long-term effects of painful past experiences, make alterations to your perception that will allow you to create desired changes in your behaviors and emotions, and to create an understanding of the way your mind already works to develop highly-motivating, personalized strategies for success.
Action plans that encourage you to instantly put your learnings and breakthroughs into practice after each session.
An understanding of what truly motivates you and what tends to hold you back. This is HOW you will become effective at accomplishing what you set your mind to!
You will also learn a framework for understanding how to “be your own coach” after our work together is finished. The tools I give you will allow you to lead yourself (and others) over the long term, and do so more effectively than ever.
Step-by-step strategies to accomplish your goals. We break down the daily and weekly steps you need to take to finally accomplish your goals. This is what allows you to accomplish the big goals that have overwhelmed you for so long! I will hold you accountable to the action steps we set each week, which means that, if you are ready to do your part, progress is guaranteed!
2. Weekly, 75-minute private coaching sessions over ZOOM video conferencing
3. A recording of every session so that you can revisit your insights and track your personal growth
4. Access to me via messaging for support between calls.
* See program offerings below
As dancers, stressful situations come up all the time. I am there to help you reframe the “I don’t know what to do and I’m freaking out” moments!
Are you ready to create a noticeable, lasting shift in your confidence and personal effectiveness? The length of this partnership (3-4 months) allows us to create deep, profound changes in the way you think, feel, and act. These learnings are solidified through consistent, monitored action. In this process, I will draw out the vision of your full potential and hold you to it! Failure or mediocrity will not be on our radar!
Whether you are going through an injury, a big change in your career, or are ready to uproot years of doubt and negativity that keeps you either playing small or working yourself into the ground at the expense of your wellbeing, this program is for dancers who are ready to create a new normal rooted in confidence.
• 9 x 75-minute private coaching sessions (completed over 3 to 4 months)
• A recording of every session
• Access to me via messaging
Questions? I'd be happy to help. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
This is perfect for any dancer who wants an upgrade in their mindset fast or wants support during a particular program or challenging time. During these three sessions, I typically stay focused on one core emotion, big decision, or behavioral pattern that a dancer wants to see big change in.
No matter what you’re facing, if you want to move ahead at full speed with clarity and confidence, and walk away with strategies that you can continue to implement after our three sessions are up, this program is perfect for you.
• 3 x 75-minute private coaching sessions (completed over 1 month)
• A recording of every session
• Access to me via messaging
Questions? I'd be happy to help. Email me at email@example.com
As a IBCP Board Certified Master Practitioner of Neurolinguistic Programming, I am qualified to proudly offer Breakthrough Sessions. This is a single day, transformative experience that provides an unparalleled opportunity to create profound personal breakthroughs in a certain area of life - breakthroughs that radically change your perspective, behaviors, and trajectory. In this focused, 6-8 hour session, you and I will take time to go through your personal history, identify and eliminate negative emotions, limiting beliefs, inner conflict, and sources of self sabotaging behaviors so that you can finally be free to move forward on a personalized and detailed plan of action for success.
Think of it this way: Imagine that you are a tree and the fruits of this tree represent the results you are getting in life. These results come from the health of your branches, which are your emotions, behaviors, thoughts, etc. In a regular coaching session, I help clients change the fruits that they are unhappy with by cleaning up their branches.
But wouldn’t you say that the best way to affect the entire tree is to inspect and care for the health of its roots?
The roots are a metaphor for the foundation, the beginnings of all of your fruits (your results) in life. These roots comprise your deepest, subconscious beliefs, your values, and even your identity. These roots were formed in your childhood, your environment, and from significant emotional events in your life.
Imagine if there was a significant positive shift in your roots that would forever have an effect on the fruits that you see in one area of your life?
That is exactly what a breakthrough session is designed to do for you.
• 1 x 6-8 hour session
• Follow up messaging and check-ins to support you as you live out your learnings
Questions? I'd be happy to help. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
I will teach you foundational tools and principles that you can continue to use to create change and success in your life
As we go through your personal history, we will draw out an understanding of the pivotal events and decisions in order to get clear on how that has shaped you in ways that you may not have been consciously aware of. With that understanding, we will use NLP techniques to release limiting decisions, negative emotions, and the disempowering stories and patterns you might have been living out subconsciously for years.
Eliminate core negative emotions like anger, sadness, fear, hurt, and guilt from your past that has continued to have conscious and subconscious effects on you and your behaviors for years.
Resolve inner conflict that holds you back from taking action, causes confusion, and possibly even manifests itself in physical ailments.
Discover what hidden benefit you may have been holding on to in your self sabotaging behavior and find a more productive, positive way to get that benefit.
Undo limiting decisions from your past that have put a cap on your ability to fulfill your potential.
Understand and reconnect with the values you have that truly motivate you to be and do your best (discover your “why” behind what you do).
Build a positive sense of identity that supports you in your goals.
Create a powerful plan of action that you know you can stick to so that you can FINALLY accomplish your what your mind has been set to!
You’re ready to set big, meaningful goals for yourself and ACTUALLY achieve them with conviction, certainty, and intrinsic motivation. No more “well I hope to”, “I don’t know, it depends on if they like me”, or “it’s ok if it doesn’t work out, I have a great plan B, C, and D”.
You want to step into auditions with a radiant confidence about you that has the judges asking, “Who is this girl (or guy)!?”
You’re ready to stop waiting for happiness to happen to you. No more waiting for that part or promotion to quiet your inner critic and finally experience the joy of dancing again.
You are ready to find your power and worth, even through a difficult injury or tough season.
You can’t wait to get clarity on what next steps are perfect for you in your career and step into them knowing you’re doing a good thing.
You want to be the kind of dancer who is ready to be seen and take hold of opportunities rather than worried about hiding mistakes.
*this link will lead you to my calendar and a short application form that helps me get to know a little bit about you and your goals before we meet!
A. I ask A LOT of questions. These powerful questions are geared towards getting you to think outside of your default perspective and tap into a state of resourcefulness rather than victimhood. The questions not only allow you to tap into a state of creativity and awareness of options, but they also help to identify and loosen the occasional negative emotion or limiting belief that used to hold you back from being the most effective and joyful version of yourself.
In addition to asking questions, I also use techniques from my training as a Certified Practitioner of Nuero-Linguistic Programming that are geared towards helping you make big changes in your mindset and behaviors on a subconscious level. These techniques are created to shortcut years of consciously processing through changes you want to make so that you can make the progress you’ve been longing for quicker than you thought was possible.
Though I may also empower you by sharing concepts that are relevant to handling what you’re going through, I do not solicit advice. After all, I’m not the expert on your life! I am just here to be your guide in this process of self discovery and rewiring the way your mind works sometimes so that you can create solutions and you can take action that you’ve felt too intimidated to take before.
A. I get it, all of these terms seem confusing and interchangeable! Don’t worry, I’m happy to break it down a little bit so you know exactly what to expect from me!
Coaching: The International Coach Federation defines coaching as “partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential, which is particularly important in today's uncertain and complex environment”.
The great thing about skillful coaching is that it provides an extremely objective environment through which a client can come to their own powerful conclusions. In this process, the coach asks the client poignant questions in order to build awareness and help them reach conclusions and set specific goals to which they will be held accountable.
Counseling: Compared to the coaching process that focuses more on optimizing the present and the future for a person of adequate mental health, counseling is geared more towards healing from painful experiences of the past.
Therapy: Therapy is for people with considerable mental health concerns who feel they are trying to get from a dysfunctional to a functional mental state. In coaching, we take clients from functional to optimal.
Mentorship: Mentorship is a process through which a mentor with a specific expertise or set of experiences shares advice with a mentee who is seeking to achieve similar results. This can be very helpful in some cases if the mentor and mentee are alike, however, in comparison to coaching, a mentoring relationship is not as objective and honoring of the mentee’s individuality as it is based off of the mentor sharing explicit advice based off of what worked for them.
Consulting: Consulting is for clients who want the problem-solving done for them. In this process, the consultants come in with a specific skill set that they use to create solutions for the client. Unlike mentoring, it is not just for soliciting advice, it is also for developing strategies and implementing them through collaboration in order to solve problems fast.
So here’s how I do things
Having a coach who just asks you questions on your journey to objectivity and self awareness is amazing… but what happens when you’re like, “I DON’T HAVE ANY OF THE ANSWERS I feel I need, and I just want someone to tell me what I should do!”?
This is where a bit of consulting and mentorship comes in.
When appropriate, we are here to suggest specific strategies to implement that will clear the confusion and teach you what you need to make killer progress. I also have specific experiences from my ballet career that some clients in similar positions benefit from knowing about. I share these sparingly, and only when it is in the best interest of the client.
In my experience, shifts in perspective combined with action plans are what make these tailor-made partnerships work.
A. NLP, one of the primary coaching methods I use, is essentially a set of language and sensory-based interventions and behavior-modification techniques intended to help improve the client’s self-awareness, confidence, communication skills, and social actions. The goals of NLP are to help the client understand that the way one views the world affects how one operates in the world, and that it is necessary to change the thoughts and behavior patterns that have not proven to be beneficial in the past.
NLP was created by a linguist and a computer programmer in the 1970s by studying highly effective professionals across multiple disciplines and drawing conclusions about what mental models, behaviors, and language patterns consistently helped them to achieve excellence and rapport with other people. Essentially, NLP is a set of techniques that help clients embody excellence for themselves while also quickly disabling mental and behavioral patterns that prevent them from the positive results and mental states they desire.
A. Absolutely! I do all of my sessions over Zoom video conferencing, so as long as you have access to a computer and the internet, our partnership is totally possible.
A. In most cases, yes! If, during our initial conversation, we discover that your goals are something that I can help with, our ability to work together is not limited by a specific age, demographic, or psychographic.
I have worked with recreational dancers who spend most of their time working in another profession, retired dancers, artists in other disciplines, or even people who have never danced but love watching my YouTube videos.