Persistent self doubt and anxiety about your future
Like no amount of progress will EVER be good enough
Wondering why your performance falls apart the second you’re trying to impress someone
Frustrated with how often you find yourself in your head instead of in the moment
Only able to focus on your faults instead of your strengths
Like you'll always be so behind in your progress
Confused about what to do next in your career… Asking yourself:
“Is it time to move on from ballet? But if I wasn’t dancing what the heck would I do?”
"Just be confident!"
"Don't care what other people think!"
Or "Stop putting so much pressure on yourself!"
And thought, "Yeah, but how!?"
A space to express what they are feeling, gain awareness of their mental patterns, and let go of the negative messages and beliefs they have been carrying with them in their training/careers that have been keeping them stressed, insecure, and in their heads rather than in the moment.
Education on how to develop confidence that's REAL and allows you to trust yourself, your body, and to feel safe to be seen and take risks.
A shift from motivating yourself from a sense of inadequacy to a genuine desire to do and experience what's important to you in ballet.
To resolve inner conflict about their ability to dance the way you're capable of and to achieve your career goals.
Personalized plans of action and accountability that help you to achieve your career goals and to be proud of yourself in the moment.
Powerful mindset tools to tap into motivation, gain objectivity in the midst of a frustrating moment, to re-wire the way your brain associates to auditioning, performing, and executing specific steps so you can perform with consistency and ease, and so much more.
Clarity on if it's time to stick with ballet or find a different career path, so you can make an empowering decision, regret-free.
“Before I started working with Kirsten, I felt like I was constantly at war with myself, and I was seriously struggling with how to achieve balance in my life. I feared that no matter how hard I worked and how many things I did “right,” it still might never be enough, which caused me to question every choice that I made and categorize every waking moment as either helping or hindering my progress. It quickly became clear that Kirsten was invested in long-term growth opportunities rather than quick fixes, and was always eager to explore challenging topics in-depth even if the solution was not immediately apparent. I am now aware of the multitude of resources at my disposal, and I feel empowered to accept where I am currently with the knowledge that I always have the ability to create positive changes. Working with Kirsten has helped me to rediscover my joy and appreciate my unique abilities as a dancer with confidence and love for myself throughout the process.”
- Grace Weidemann, Ballet Dancer
"After dealing with a knee injury for three months that I felt like I was never going to get through, I spoke with Kirsten for just one hour, and the change I experienced after our discussion was incredible. I had been battling my own mind and body for such a long time and was frustrated and stressed, yet in a few weeks after Kirsten helped me shift my mindset, I was feeling great and experiencing little to no knee pain- something I had only dreamed of for months! I did not realize how powerful your mindset can be in terms of your physical health. Thanks to Kirsten, I was able to get past this injury and am now preparing to go overseas for a dream summer intensive program that I wouldn’t imagine ever happening a few months ago."
- Harper Banks, Trainee with Oklahoma City Ballet
"Kirsten went deep into the root cause of all my behaviors and thoughts, constantly asking thought-provoking questions that helped me understand myself more. In only three sessions, I had many “Eureka!” moments where even till this day, I am still stunned because I didn’t realize what my subconscious had been trying to tell me for years.
Before mindset coaching, I found myself dreading dance classes due to self-destructive habits, and was considering quitting pre-professionally. However, I kept holding myself back as the possibility of regretting this life-changing decision kept haunting me. Kirsten and I managed to come to a definite answer within one session, which in comparison to the months of me debating in my mind, is astoundingly fast. Because of our work together, I have managed to leave pre-professional dance with no regrets, a better understanding of myself, and new healthy habits to cope with future challenges.
Kirsten is very patient, understanding and comforting to talk to. I can clearly tell that she is genuinely in touch with my emotions and is excited to help me achieve happiness and clarity. I recommend any dancer who is struggling to try out mindset coaching - you will not be disappointed!"
- Zi, Former Pre-Professional Dancer
"Before deciding to try out mindset coaching, I was struggling to believe in myself. It seemed like every time I looked in the mirror, I would only see what was wrong and I would get wrapped up in negative self-talk instead of being able to focus in class. I am so grateful to say that after working with Kirsten, I now feel so free to believe in myself and have even seen such an improvement in my technique because I am no longer spending my time in class being overly critical of myself.
Having this new level of confidence has allowed me to put myself out there for opportunities more boldly, and this past audition season went better than I've ever experienced before. Before working with Kirsten, I knew that mindset was important, but now I know that getting support in this area is one of the best things you can do for yourself and your future as a dancer! "
- Madison D., Pre-Professional Dancer
"My time working with Kirsten would be what I would describe as one of the best decisions I have made for my future. Kirsten listened, was thought-provoking and truly cared about helping me obtain what I was searching for. I came disoriented as to where I stood with dance in my life, and have emerged with direction along with an array of concrete tools. Thank you Kirsten, for providing a much needed service for an art form that is just as mentally demanding as it is physically."
- Nadia Smith, Pre-Professional Dancer turned Art Student
"Before working with Kirsten, I was feeling unsure about leaving ballet professionally and what I would do next. Because of our work together, I am experiencing a new sense of freedom, clarity, confidence, and excitement going into my new path after ballet. Each session I gained knowledge and insights about myself and my situation, and I am truly amazed to see how much I have grown in such a short amount of time. Kirsten is very insightful, a great listener, and empathetic, which allowed our conversations to be very open and productive. She was able to quickly make connections, and I was pleased with where our conversations went. She guided me as I made this important decision, but also gave me tools that I will be able to use for situations in the future. This process was really life-giving for me and being able to go through a transition while working with her was so helpful. If you are considering working with Kirsten, I can personally say that this investment was very valuable for my present and future. I highly recommend working with her, no matter your age or level of ballet training."
- Former Professional Dancer
"What really stood out to me about Kirsten was that she has trained in dance and experienced a lot of what dancers go through in terms of the mental side of it which was extremely encouraging because she was able to bring her perspective and knowledge about these struggles and help find a solution that is tailored towards dancers, which you don’t see very often!
Before starting mindset coaching, I had little confidence in myself and in my decision on whether I wanted to keep dancing. But with the help of Kirsten, I was able to get past my underlying belief that I was not confident and have become more comfortable with myself in situations that are out of my comfort zone. With this newfound mindset, I am more hopeful for my future and confident that I will continue to progress with it, with help from the information and techniques she shared with me throughout our sessions. Kirsten is so kind-hearted, and you can tell how passionate and dedicated she is to help other dancers/clients change their mindset for the better which is so encouraging to see and I am very grateful for all her help!"
- Sofia Pollini, Ballet Dancer
"I’m a 65-year-old former gymnast who finally decided to see if I could make my childhood dream of performing as an acrobat come true. Being mostly independent and self-taught, it never entered my mind to hire a mindset coach until I saw Kirsten on YouTube where her thoughtful approach and bright enthusiasm sparked something in me. It was love at first sight, you might say. Haha!
Working with Kirsten has been key for me in getting clear on how past mental and practical habits were not serving me in my training. She’s given me a fresh perspective that is uplifting, life-affirming, and exciting! She gave me much-needed support and encouragement to pursue my passion and helped me remember how lucky I am to get to have so much fun! No matter the issue, she always has a slew of cool ideas to help me easily overcome my mental blocks.
After experiencing greater and faster accomplishments in training and skill levels than I had in years, I now feel newly confident in my ability to achieve my dream and can only imagine that all performing artists would thrive with this kind of support and coaching on their journeys to excellence. Kirsten is super intelligent and intuitive, wise beyond her years, and so sincerely caring and kind. She is a joy to be with and I’m blessed to have this beautiful person in my life!"
Julie S., Acrobat and Performing Artist
"As dancers, our greatest challenges are often not physical, but mental. We are far too quick to judge ourselves based off of our appearance in the mirror, how a performance 'felt', and what our teacher/artistic director thinks of us. If we're honest, we enter the studio with a self-limiting and debilitating mindset that hinders us from growing. Kirsten not only recognizes this, but she's been through it and has come out the other side with insight and wisdom far beyond her years. Thankfully, she has the way out! Through Kirsten's coaching, I've come to recognize the thought patterns that are not serving my dancing and have come to adopt new ones based on her guidance and expertise. Kirsten will help you set new goals and give you a clear & informed perspective that we simply can't get on our own. I am incredibly grateful for her!"
- Jordan Tilton, Professional Dancer with Diablo Ballet (formerly with San Francisco Ballet), Creator of the Ballet to Business Podcast
"Kirsten has been a tremendous support in my journey by providing me with the knowledge that is key to a dancer's success in the industry. In only three sessions, she has helped me discover parts of myself that I was unaware of and has led me to change my perspective on issues that arise from the instability and pressure that can be placed on a dancer as he or she transitions from student to professional. With her help, I feel free to discover my art and express my love for it."
- Joffrey Ballet Trainee and Former Dancer with the Houston Ballet Academy
"It is rare that you find someone as special as Kirsten. To sum up her expertise in a few sentences is nearly impossible.
Kirsten has a unique gift to listen and absorb all sorts of information and then not only give you a different perspective, but this realization that we are all so much more powerful than we give ourselves credit for. I worked with Kirsten very briefly but her impact still resonates with me today. I imagine anyone with Kirsten by their side would have the confidence to achieve just about anything they set out to do. If you are on the fence about working with her, this is your sign, give her a try I promise you will be happily surprised."
- Chelsea P., Adult Recreational Dancer
“Kirsten helped me identify my biggest challenge in life: devoting myself to something I value highly, but without the anxiety. Within just two calls, she helped me adopt a new mindset that instantly lifted the weight off my shoulders. Now I am able to focus on taking the right course of action to move forward with my career without the worrying and obsessing over what could happen to hinder me. This has allowed me to see new possibilities in stressful situations. She clearly cares about my well-being and her coaching is focused, lucid, and efficient. I highly recommend her to anyone who needs some perspective and guidance during their career struggle!”
- Jackie Z., Recreational Dancer, Researcher & Economist
“My husband and I have always been advocates for counseling/life coaching. I believe we all have blind spots and can benefit from talking to someone else that can identify with our journey - especially at pivotal moments. We are grateful that our daughter, Grace, has had the opportunity to work with Kirsten. While I am supportive of my daughter in all ways, I am not a dancer. We saw that Grace was stressed which included difficulty relaxing or recreating as she considered the next step in her dance career. Kirsten has been on this exact path and could really unpack the layers of the ballet world in a way that has been specifically useful to Grace. Grace has been able to specifically identify coping strategies that may get in the way of moving forward and find alternative plans that work for her. Kirsten is very intuitive, extremely attentive and has assisted Grace to find tools that will serve her in ballet and, I believe, for the rest of her life. While Grace continues with her journey through ballet, I notice that she is much more relaxed and has a renewed, joyful focus in the pursuit of ballet as a career. I highly recommend Kirsten Kemp as a coach for many reasons, but specifically for the ballet dancer navigating the transition from student to professional.
- Debbie W., Parent of a Pre-Professional Dancer
“For someone who has been skeptical about mindset coaching and how much it can actually address, a coaching session with Kirsten was actually so reassuring, while also genuinely challenging and worthwhile! While I can struggle to relate emotional goals into tangible, everyday experiences working in the studio, Kirsten was wonderfully able, after just a short time, to help me resolve negatively perceived experiences and re-balance my perspective so that I could have confidence going forward. Our conversations really helped ‘connect-the-dots’ of several disparate issues I had been facing and feeling blocked by, meaning we discussed real resources and methods to help.
I think dancers can so often just feel like one of many, but mindset coaching with Kirsten felt so genuine and personal as she helped me to restore a sense of clarity and individuality in my approach to dancing. I can’t recommend working with Kirsten enough!”
- Sophie H., Dance Artist in the UK
4. Instant access to the "Master Your Mindset" training videos. This is a library of educational videos I have specifically created to help kickstart your understanding of how to master your own mindset for optimal performance and mental wellness. These short videos will share with you core mindset coaching principles that we with use in our work together which you will also be able to use on your own for continued success.
1. Weekly, 75-minute private coaching sessions over ZOOM video conferencing.
2. A recording of every session so that you can revisit your insights and track your personal growth.
3. Access to me via messaging for accountability and support between calls.
5. Instant access to the "Client Resource Library", a continually updated list of powerful books, videos, and podcast episodes from various sources, out of which I will direct you to specific resources that will beautifully compliment the core insights you gain from each of our coaching sessions.
Most clients engage in a three-month program with me, which includes 9 mindset coaching sessions, after which they are welcome to schedule individual sessions with me as desired. This program length works beautifully for many dancers who are ready to create deep, lasting change in their personal confidence, to have consistent support through times like audition season, and to truly be seen through the process of creating the tangible outcomes we establish as our measure for success prior to working together.
Some dancers engage in as little as a one-month program with me, which includes 3 mindset coaching sessions, after which they are welcome to extend. This shortened program works beautifully for dancers who are working towards a specific, upcoming performance that they want to mentally prepare for or who are pressed to make a quick decision about what their next career moves will be.
*The purpose of a free consultation is to discuss what challenges you're facing, what you would like to achieve through mindset coaching, and to lastly identify how we will specifically work to get you to your desired outcome if we determine that working together is a mutual fit. At the end of our conversation, I will share with you how many sessions I would recommend for you personally, and we will have an opportunity to discuss what payment plan options will work best for you at this time.
You're sick of letting your inner critic do most of the talking during class! You want to be confident in your dancing and you're ready to do something about it!
You're tired of feeling like you're wasting time going down negative thought spirals, comparing yourself harshly against other dancers, and waiting to finally feel "good enough". You love ballet and you want to spend more of your time in the studio feeling that love and joy ballet once brought you!
You are done with having that comment a teacher told you years ago still telling you who you are and what you're capable of today. You're ready to write a new and empowering story!
You're ready to go into auditions and performances with excitement, knowing very well what you have to offer and confident that you can deliver an overall quality performance.
You're ready to re-define your relationship with your "flaws", your fear of failure, and start to be grateful for the dancer that you are at this point in your process, not the dancer that you fear you'll never be.
You're ready to get clarity on what next steps are perfect for you in your career and step into them knowing you’re making moves that are right for you.
You want to be the kind of dancer who is ready to be seen and to take hold of opportunities rather than being overly concerned about hiding mistakes.
You are expecting SOMEONE ELSE to wave a magic wand, and you'll never feel insecure again. This process will work only if YOU are ready to take responsibility and action towards the results you want to create. Also, as we make progress, we will all need to do things we are unsure about! Confidence comes through action and building proof over time, not perfection.
You don't feel ready to move forward with taking action, or adopting new thoughts, beliefs, and perspectives.
*this link will lead you to my calendar and a short application form that helps me get to know a little bit about you and your goals before we meet!
A. I ask A LOT of questions. These powerful questions are geared towards getting you to think outside of your default perspective and tap into a state of resourcefulness rather than victimhood. The questions not only allow you to tap into a state of creativity and awareness of options, but they also help to identify and loosen the occasional negative emotion or limiting belief that used to hold you back from being the most effective and joyful version of yourself.
In addition to asking questions, I also use techniques from my training as a Certified Practitioner of Nuero-Linguistic Programming that are geared towards helping you make big changes in your mindset and behaviors on a subconscious level. These techniques are created to shortcut years of consciously processing through changes you want to make so that you can make the progress you’ve been longing for quicker than you thought was possible.
Though I may also empower you by sharing concepts that are relevant to handling what you’re going through, I do not solicit advice. After all, I’m not the expert on your life! I am just here to be your guide in this process of self discovery and rewiring the way your mind works sometimes so that you can create solutions and you can take action that you’ve felt too intimidated to take before.
A. I get it, all of these terms seem confusing and interchangeable! Don’t worry, I’m happy to break it down a little bit so you know exactly what to expect from me!
Coaching: The International Coach Federation defines coaching as “partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential, which is particularly important in today's uncertain and complex environment”.
The great thing about skillful coaching is that it provides an extremely objective environment through which a client can come to their own powerful conclusions. In this process, the coach asks the client poignant questions in order to build awareness and help them reach conclusions and set specific goals to which they will be held accountable.
Counseling: Compared to the coaching process that focuses more on optimizing the present and the future for a person of adequate mental health, counseling is geared more towards healing from painful experiences of the past.
Therapy: Therapy is for people with considerable mental health concerns who feel they are trying to get from a dysfunctional to a functional mental state. In coaching, we take clients from functional to optimal.
Mentorship: Mentorship is a process through which a mentor with a specific expertise or set of experiences shares advice with a mentee who is seeking to achieve similar results. This can be very helpful in some cases if the mentor and mentee are alike, however, in comparison to coaching, a mentoring relationship is not as objective and honoring of the mentee’s individuality as it is based off of the mentor sharing explicit advice based off of what worked for them.
Consulting: Consulting is for clients who want the problem-solving done for them. In this process, the consultants come in with a specific skill set that they use to create solutions for the client. Unlike mentoring, it is not just for soliciting advice, it is also for developing strategies and implementing them through collaboration in order to solve problems fast.
So here’s how I do things
Having a coach who just asks you questions on your journey to objectivity and self awareness is amazing… but what happens when you’re like, “I DON’T HAVE ANY OF THE ANSWERS I feel I need, and I just want someone to tell me what I should do!”?
This is where a bit of consulting and mentorship comes in.
When appropriate, we are here to suggest specific strategies to implement that will clear the confusion and teach you what you need to make killer progress. I also have specific experiences from my ballet career that some clients in similar positions benefit from knowing about. I share these sparingly, and only when it is in the best interest of the client.
In my experience, shifts in perspective combined with action plans are what make these tailor-made partnerships work.
A. NLP, one of the primary coaching methods I use, is essentially a set of language and sensory-based interventions and behavior-modification techniques intended to help improve the client’s self-awareness, confidence, communication skills, and social actions. The goals of NLP are to help the client understand that the way one views the world affects how one operates in the world, and that it is necessary to change the thoughts and behavior patterns that have not proven to be beneficial in the past.
NLP was created by a linguist and a computer programmer in the 1970s by studying highly effective professionals across multiple disciplines and drawing conclusions about what mental models, behaviors, and language patterns consistently helped them to achieve excellence and rapport with other people. Essentially, NLP is a set of techniques that help clients embody excellence for themselves while also quickly disabling mental and behavioral patterns that prevent them from the positive results and mental states they desire.
A. Absolutely! I do all of my sessions over Zoom video conferencing, so as long as you have access to a computer and the internet, our partnership is totally possible.
A. In most cases, yes! If, during our initial conversation, we discover that your goals are something that I can help with, our ability to work together is not limited by a specific age, demographic, or psychographic.
I have worked with recreational dancers who spend most of their time working in another profession, retired dancers, artists in other disciplines, or even people who have never danced but love watching my YouTube videos.